2008-06-10

I’m not comfortable to talk and write about this concern by many individuals. I’m not the type of a person who can talk directly from my heart when it comes to sexuality. but I tried to be open minded about it. Sexuality throbs within us as movement toward relationship, intimacy, and companionship. Sexuality is an integral part of who we are. Just because we are sexual doesn’t mean we have to fall prey to the animal instinct of “doing it”. Sex has become one of the most discussed subjects in modern times. The victorians pretended it did not exist, the modern pretend that nothing else exists. If you’re an insecure woman you’re probably asking is “Am I desirable?” You see sex as a barometer of your worthiness and as a means to relational connectedness. Wanting to be desirable, is not a bad thing. And if you’re a man the primary sexual question is often “Am I capable?” The insecure man tends to see sex in terms of power and performance, competition and achievement. For him, it can even become a numbers game. I think it will end up making you feel more self-denigrated, desperate, alone and insecure. So what’s a sexual being to do? We have our choices in life. My choice is to find a man who believes in “honoring” women, who would never “use” a woman to get sex. In my line of thinking sex is a way of expressing feelings you can’t express with words. If we’re in love it can’t be wrong. I believe that love sanctifies sex.

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