My Heart And Me

Keanu Reeves says to Sandra Bullocks in the movie Speed,” I’ve heard that relationships based on intense experiences never work.” And Sandra replies “Okay, we’ll have to base on sex.” For me, as a woman it was ridiculous. “If your relationship is based on sex, you don’t have a relationship.” Some people believe and choose sex because they are in love and having sex brings them closer together, I agree in some ways. I don’t want to be hypocrite, if I love the person, I will show my love to him and I will never regret by doing it with the person I really love. And realizing that we were more in love with each other than ever. Having guilt-free sex helped us to love each other all the more. Sex can bring two people closer together for a time. And I think the problem with using sex as a means to more intimacy is that it soon becomes substitute for emotional intimacy itself. I believe couples who put their sexuality on fast forward-circuit the normal progression of linking their hearts and soul. And I do believe also using sex to speed up the process doesn’t work; not for the long haul. Sex-too soon keeps that from happening. some ways creates an illusion of intimacy that fades with the fire of passion. According to psychologist “There is so much use of the body as a substitute for psychological intimacy,” “It’s must easier to jump in bed with someone than it is to share your fears and anxieties.” For me it’s true and he got a point but it will still depend on the couple how they handle their relationships. I still consider the fact and thinking that I don’t delude myself into thinking that sex brings closer together in any lasting or meaningful way. We all have our own minds and hearts what to believe in. It is depends on the person and setting boundaries is a must and it is a decision we make on our own and talk over with our partner.

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We’ve all heard it: Opposites attract. But is it true? For me hardly. In reality, opposites seldom attract, and if they do they often don’t stay attract. Close relationships are more likely to form and endure with someone who shares my ideas,values, and desires, a person who likes the same music, the same activities, the same interests, even the same foods. How do you know you have a lot in common? It takes time. And it doesn’t hurt to withhold premature judgments. Differences emerge in any close relationship. But love knows that for a fighting chance the relationship must be built on common ground. Time will tell if a relationship is built to go to distance. Love is not leaving everything up to chance, it can once again put the odds of survival in my favor. LOVE is something we do. I’ve been looking for a perfect match, “A Mr. Perfect-for me, A Mr. My-type, Mr. Dream-Man” and etc. Asking myself what should I do to know who is good and perfect match for me? I lay myself trusting in the arms of God, how can I discern which man created for me? Maybe I should take the first step of admitting exactly who I am and where I am. And be honest about what I really see. I won’t be the first person to take a hard look at myself, and I won’t be the last. I will survive, as proven by some very high profile predecessors. I’m not perfect at all, I’m only human but seeking a good match with the help from above it will be possible.

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I had a great night swimming bonding with my two kids. I thought this weekend I’ll be alone because supposedly yesterday they’re with me, they had a bonding moment with their grandmother. Lucky me and they’re with me now until tomorrow. Supposedly tomorrow is the opening of the school year but because of Influenza A H1N1 virus it was moved next week. When we’re in the pool my five year old daughter told me “Mama I want to grow up fast!” I asked her why? and she said “I want to grow up fast because I want to have a big breast when I wear swim suit like you, I want to have a sexy body like you.” Lol! Naughty girl! And I saw a small balloon in the hand of her big sister I got an idea. To fulfill her fantasy, I made two small balloons and put it inside her swimsuit and she’s so happy to see her fake sexiness at her young mind and wild imagination, I helped her how to feel sexy. What a bonding night with my funny and jolly daughters. It was one of the best bonding moment with my funny and jolly children. Swimming is my favorite sports and my kids as well, our togetherness in that hobby makes us more closer to each other. My angels, my strength, my joy and happiness in life.

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