2010-03

I want to share with you the art of letting go… that I personally experience and feel it.

One reasons why people get so sentimental…
It’s because memories are the only things that don’t change…
When everything else does… there are things in life that you can’t hold on forever,
No matter how much you fight for it.
Sometimes destiny isn’t always good, it becomes playful.

When you met someone you learned to love, you thought that it was destiny who made your paths cross.
But what if making your paths cross is just a part of the game that the playful destiny create?
Making you realize in the end that the person you thought that was destined for you wasn’t really meant to stay…

But only destined to make you feel love and leave you when you’ve already fallen.
It’s not easy to state a reason when you decide to leave your love…
Some might think it’s just an excuse… some might not actually believe…
some will blame you…some might even be mad at you…

What they don’t see is the fact that it hurts you even more to hurt someone who doesn’t deserve to be hurt… especially when you can’t actually state the reason why you have to leave…
You can never own something that was never yours…
So lets stop gripping on things we expect to last forever…
Nothing lasts forever… Forever is a lie. Everything is transitory.

So while you have something in your hand, put in mind that it’s just borrowed…
So that someday when it’s gone, it won’t take you eternity just to let it go…
When your feelings get strong for someone, its always wise to stop for a while and give your heart…
-a time to breath… a time to use your mind to weigh the situation based on reason not on emotion…
Because the saddest thing that can happen is when one fall in love while the other wants nothing more than friendship… love sometimes can be magic… but magic can sometimes an illusion…

There are times when I wish that I was limited to certain emotions…
So that I’ll never have to experience pain, never feel betrayed or disappointed, and never get my fragile heart broken…

But the same thing means that I’ll never know how it feels to love and be loved in return…
The thought of it kind of scares me…
To have a heart that’s whole but numb… or a heart that’s broken but real…
Someday we’ll all looking back to those days we leaned to love, get hurt, cry and fight.

Maybe when the time comes, we’ll be laughing at our old dumb selves…
Realizing how stupid we were to stand up for things we knew weren’t really meant for us…
But I guess learning takes time, and mistakes make one’s journey fun…
Life is what we make it. Love makes the world go round…
So let’s live, love, and take what ever pain it brings…
Though it’s hard to wait around for something that I know will never happen…

It’s harder to stop when I know it’s everything I’ve always wanted…
But you know what I’m glad… I’m glad it happened…
We’re good FRIENDS… and I’m thankful for that…
Take care always my dear friend… I’m just here…

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Not all sufferings, are redemptive. Some sufferings including much of my loneliness, is consequences of my broken relationships. God created you and me for relationships. When God said “It is not good for the man to be alone.” He was referring to man’s need for woman and for woman’s need for man. “It is not good for the man to be alone,” also applies to all relationship. When an individual is alone for an extended period, the first thing he or she loses is sane, happy and spontaneous laughter. Happy laughter is possible only when there is someone to laugh with. To laugh alone is to be ridiculous. “No one man is an island” is an apt saying. ” No man stands alone. Every man is a brother. Every man is a friend.” Sometimes I feel totally alone even in a crowd. No aloneness could be more intense than being in a miserable marriage like I had 6 years ago. There is nothing as lonely as bearing pain alone with no sympathy or help even from your family and friends. Much of the loneliness will vanish if we address the alienation causing it. It can be brought about by selfishness, pride, or unbelief. When I don’t talk with, or cannot communicate with a person because of unresolved hurt, anger, resentment, or bitterness, there is alienation. Such estrangement brings mutual loneliness. I could so easily be free from much of my loneliness if only I have the humility to ask for forgiveness and the grace to forgive. The answer to much of my loneliness is healed relationships. Deeper than the loneliness caused by our broken relationships with one another is the loneliness caused by our broken relationship with God. Loneliness is temporary. Suffering is redemptive. I turn to God to heal my broken relationship. I learn not to allow my pride and selfishness to master me and rob me of joy of healthy relationships. Confess to one another ask for forgiveness, and grant forgiveness. Thank you God for the guidance and love.

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