- 2008-06-19 (Thu) 22:54
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There is no substitute for the comfort supplied by the utterly taken-for granted relationship. What really makes people happy? nor success, wealth, achievement, good looks, or any of those enviable assets. I believe the clear winner is relationships. “No man is an island.” We need to belong. “Aren’t all of us, even with people all around, susceptible to loneliness?” I think “yes” What ever the reason, everyone agrees that no matter what our age, we all have a deep longing for belonging. We want to be wanted, accepted, enjoyed, and loved. No one is too big, strong, talented, or tough to go without belonging. To share the experience of being alone for a long time. The need to belong is not just about feeling warm and accepted, however. it’s literally a matter of life and death. In my own experience happiness seems made to be shared. We need to belong, to find intimacy with others is so universal and even ordained, you maybe wondering, why is it so complex? Why is it sometimes so difficult? I wonder the same thing. We all need camaraderie, affection, love. whether we like it or not, each of us has an shakable dependence on others. Intimate attachments to other human beings are the hub around which a person’s life revolves.
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- Anonymous 08-06-24 (Tue) 17:27
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Feeling lonely at times is very human. There are different kinds of loneliness: feeling as though you don’t have enough (or any) friends; feeling unseen or unknown by those you know; difficulty feeling good when alone or making use of one’s time. Sometimes we suffer because of a false belief about ourselves: “If I am alone, then something must be wrong with me. Perhaps I am unlovable.” This feeling may be a symptom of insufficient self love. On the other hand, growing up in a society that promotes a dependence upon, or even an addiction to external things for a sense of well being – food, clothes, drugs, other people – leaves many of us floundering when left all to ourselves. Some of us may have internalized the false view that to be happy is to be surrounded by others at all times, regardless of how we may feel in their company.
And yet, if we can learn to be truly intimate with ourselves, then we are never alone. This sort of intimacy, however, is not always easy to come by. It may take facing the wounded, deficient parts of ourselves, as well as the wonderful, abundant parts. In many families such parts were rejected and denied, and therefore went underground, perhaps festering into a low-grade depression. Therapy frequently involves facing and integrating these rejected parts and experiences. These neglected parts of ourselves often carry a heavy burden of shame. Shame too can isolate us from others, contributing to our loneliness. Group therapy and other mutually accepting relationships can offer an antidote to shame, as we explore our common vulnerability and see that our deepest secrets are not the terrible beasts we imagined.
- Mochini 08-06-24 (Tue) 17:28
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Just dropin by… read my post above…
Have a nice day… - Malou 08-06-24 (Tue) 20:50
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Hi Mochini
Hello my friend how are you?
Thank you for your long and meaningful comment.
i know your busy very much appreciated.
Hows U.S. enjoy your training take care!
see you after a month???
Good luck and God bless!!!
Name: Malou