Separate lives…

Last Saturday afternoon, my youngest daughter told me “Mama my father have a new girlfriend, we had a party last night in our house then my father introduced to us his new girlfriend.” And I replied, Oh! that’s good! nice to hear that, he will forget his past girlfriend that your grand mother hate the most. Then she smiled at me and I asked her who’s the prettiest? the past girlfriend or the current girlfriend? Lol! and she replied “the present girlfriend.” Oh that’s good! Then the next day, it was Sunday while we’re taking our lunch, my 2nd daughter open a topic about his fathers girlfriend. Then she asked me “Mama you don’t care that our father have another girl friend? you don’t get hurt?” I said to her, oh! why I should get hurt? yes, I do care! I care because your father is happy with his life now, he found another girl friend and they’re in good terms with his loving mother, they’re not fighting, and you should be happy too that your grandma and your father are now okay, If your father is happy, I’ll be happy for him too. Then she showed a sad face to me, and I asked, why you have sad face? then she replied with very low voice, I want a happy and a complete family. I said to her “don’t be sad you have a complete and a happy family, you have a father and a mother and two sisters, even we don’t live together in one house we’re still a happy family. Me and your father have a happy life now, you don’t see us fighting better than before isn’t? Then she said “okay mama” with a sad face. In time, when she grow up, I know she will understand me. I know her feelings. Every children dream to have a happy family. I still hope that my father and mother will be back in each others arms to stay together until they die, but seeing them staying together with a miserable life will hurt me more. Seeing them with their separate lives, and seeing my mother happy without my father in her life made me understand her, what she wants in her life, a life together with my younger brothers and sister. And seeing my father who found someone who will love and take care of him until his last breath on earth, it makes me happy and understand them both why they live their lives separately.

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